Friday, March 27, 2009

Urgent Prayers and Help Needed!!!

Dear friends,

This is so very difficult to write but I realize it should be done. We have shared that we have been having problems with one of our adopted children but it has escalated into a very serious situation. Stephanie has caused serious harm to two of our children and can no longer remain in our home. CPS came by yesterday and had planned to leave our home to go to Stephanie's school and pick her up (without even a goodbye) and take her into custody. After long talks with the social worker we agreed that we could very short term keep our children safe while looking into alternatives. We have until Tuesday until we speak with them again. As of now, if Stephanie is removed from our home they say her issues and age make it very unlikely they will be able to place her in a family setting. She will likely head to a group home hours away from us. We feel this could be a very bad thing for her. We have very few options, but one option may be to find another family for her ourselves. It would have to be a family without young or mentally disabled children, without sexually active children, and a family willing to help her with very serious issues.

We have no idea what is going to happen. We know it is a real stretch to find her a home at her age and with her issues, but we must at least TRY! Will you please keep our family covered in prayer during this extremely difficult time? Could you please pass on this information and our contact information with anyone you know of that may be able to consider taking in Stephanie?

We ask that you would please pray pray pray pray. We are in the need of a miracle here! We know many of you will have questions about what happened. We ask that, unless you need to know to decide about taking in Stephanie, you please refrain from seeking the details of what brought this about. We want to seek help and a home for Stephanie but do not want to get into situations of simply gossiping about the situation. Our family is hurting in very big ways and your support and friendships are always very much appreciated.

25 comments:

traceylynndel said...

Praying for your family. I know you must all be in anguish.

Tracey

Leslie said...

Praying for your family.

Mr Nice Guy said...

We love you guys a lot, and it’s so sad to hear you’re going through so much pain. Your kids are all just so sweet, and it’s heartbreaking to hear they’ve been hurt. We will be praying for you.

Thanks for stopping in! said...

You are in my thoughts and prayers. May the God of all peace and understanding hold yu close as you walk through this valley.

Laurie said...

I'm so sorry for all of you. What a difficult situation.

Praying for your family

ManyBlessings said...

Angela,
I have sent an email to a friend. I am so sorry you are going through this, and thankful for the way you are choosing to bless Stephanie even in this the worst of times.
dawnz

ManyBlessings said...

Angela,
Email me privately (rdzomer@mtcnet.net) and I will get you in touch with Christine.
dawnz

The Tacheny's said...

Praying for you and your family!

mama bear said...

So sorry your family is going through this. I am a member of a disruption group on Yahoo. There are many people on groups like this seeking to adopt children from disruption or who have rehomed their children. There may be help on there for you. I will pray for you and Stephanie.

Rebekah Hubley said...

Angela-

I am praying for you! If you want, I have a friend who has adopted 26 kids...yes 26, and they had to find help for one of their children that sounds a lot like your situation. They have also adopted a haitian girl that was disrupted, so they may be of help in that regard too. E-mail me, and I will get the 2 of you in contact if you want. She is an amazing woman of God, and has sooooooooooo much experience and wisdom!!!!

r_rhubley@hotmail.com

ManyBlessings said...

Angela,
(You don't need to publish this. I am sending it this way because I don't have a way to email you.:)) I have a friend that works with families who need to place their children in new families. She would very much like to help you with Stephanie. She knows this particular pain very well as she has helped other families and also has adopted out of disruptions herself. She is extremely sensitive. She is more than willing to do what she can to help you. She is a Christian and so very tender with families experiencing this. If you are at all able, email me please ok? I'm so so sorry sweetie that you are in this particular place. God has not forgotten you dear girl. He hasn't.
dawn

Christine said...

Hi ANgela,

SO sorry for all that oyu are going through. I have helped many families in your position and wanted to extend a helping hand.

One Crowded House said...

I will be praying for your family... I know your heart must be breaking... I was going to mention contacting Christine (who has/is adopting from Russia) but, I see she has already left a comment here... she seems to help with these kinds of situations a lot...

Anonymous said...

Hi,

I'll be praying for you all.
In the mean time, please contact this lady: http://thebodiebunch.blogspot.com/
She's the simply parent of 39, and has several with mental illness and quite dangerous too. She knows all there is to know about options for children (there is residencial options when a mental illness is behind it).
A group home is not a good option for Steph. as she will abuse and be abused over there.

Wish you all the best.

Lots of Love,
Daisy

Ericka said...

Praying for you and your family Angela.
Hugs,
Er

Momto14 said...

Praying for your family.
Love,
Sarah

Becky Hinchley said...

Praying for you....

Kristen said...

Stephanie, I am so very sorry to hear this. I will send out the info to my church adoption group to see if there are any couples with grown children who might be interested, since we live in CA too.

DotBlogger said...

Tears.
Prayers.

Kathy said...

Praying for the right family to come forward.

sisterhaiti said...

We will be praying. I sent an email but not sure if you got it. Have you looked at CHASK? They sometimes help families find new families for their children. I have seen them help several families that have had to disrupt adoptions. Big Hugs.

Wife to the Rockstar said...

Praying here too. I am so very sorry.

Laurie said...

You & your family have been heavy on my heart for several days & I wanted to share some blogs of some large adoptive families currently dealing with mental illness that may help you to understand or at least give you a different propective. All of these ladies are very knowledgeable regarding the services available for mentally ill minors (or lack there of) & I hope they can give you comfort.

thebodiebunch.blogspot.com
megafamilyliving2.blogspot.com
largefamilymomma.blogspot.com

Praying for all of you.

Hugs, Laurie

ali said...

We've been praying. It's Tuesday, we'd love to know the outcome and how you're doing.
ali

Ransomed~Redeemed said...

Oh Angela,
I am so sorry. Prayers for your family. Alida w4